Dating can be challenging, but dating during a pandemic can be down right impossible. Now try splitting the impossible in half due to many men now wanting open relationships.
You cannot swipe through a dating app without running into a guy who wants an open relationship. It happens so much that I am starting to believe that open relationships are becoming more common every day. Let’s not talk about the couples who go on dating apps looking for an addition to their relationship.
It got me thinking about why so many people are turning to open relationships. Why do they choose to be non-monogamous and to have multiple romantic partners or flings?
When we were younger, we were conditioned to believe that there is a special someone for everyone and that we all grow up, get married, have children, and grow old together. We were all conditioned to believe that this is normal and that anything other than monogamy was radical or not the norm.
Today, things have changed. A lot of people are choosing romantic relationships that make them truly happy and not just doing what is expected of them by society.
According to Psychology Today, a survey showed that men seek open relationships more than woman, but there are a good amount of women who seek the same thing. A good percentage of men preferred open relationships over monogamous relationships. The survey also stated that around 40% of men and 25% of women would be in open relationships if it was seen as normal.
It has me wondering if many women are in open relationships to appease the wants of their partner or to perhaps hold onto someone that doesn’t want to be held onto.
I think sometimes people forget that we are all human and whether we deny it or not, we all have feelings. While open relationships can give people freedom to sleep and be with whoever they want, at the end of the day someone always gets hurt. It can also get very messy. What happens if a married couple decides to have an open relationship and feelings develop with another person? There can also be jealousy involved that can bring out many insecurities.
I think open relationships allow you to have your cake and eat it too. Why be in an open relationship when you can just be single and sleep or be with whoever you want without commitment? I think being in a relationship and still wanting to date other people defeats the purpose of being in one. It can make the person you’re with feel insecure or like they can’t give you something that the other person can.
I am a 100% supporter of monogamous relationships, but I do realize that not everyone is like me and what works for me will not always work for others. I think in order for someone to have a successful open relationship, there has to be ground rules and everyone needs to be on the same page. If not, then it can end badly. I think that if people are having open relationships to fix a marriage or relationship, then it will never work. Boundaries are key and they can never be crossed between partners.